Would You Date Your Friend’s Ex?
Post created on February 23, 2010 by Reesie under Chika Galore, Lovelife
So let’s talk about that thing called LoVe…
Would you date your friend’s ex boyfriend/girlfriend?
It happened to me before. My friend dated my ex. She was not just my friend, she was my bestfriend. I wasn’t actually surprised when I found out about them later on since my friend was really open about having a crush on my then-boyfriend. She would talk about that my then-boyfriend was her crush in grade school! Whehew! Isn’t it odd telling everyone that your bestfriend’s boyfriend was your crush? Back then for me, it wasn’t odd. It was really nothing to me because I thought she was talking about a thing in the past. Little did I know…
Anyway, what happened?
My bestfriend became his confidante when things weren’t going too well between us. She became sort of like our messenger for we weren’t already talking. The first time I noticed that something was going on was during our graduation. I wanted to take a picture with my bestfriend and I couldn’t find her. I looked and there she was, taking tons of pictures with my ex-boyfriend! I was actually hurt. Hurt because I thought all along she was on my side – during the break-up process, etc. The pain was still fresh as it was only been a month since we broke up. I was hurt because she valued my ex-boyfriend more than me, her bestfriend. Perhaps, she was hitting on him already at that time. I really don’t know. Not only it was a heartbreak but my friendship with my bestfriend had also been broken. It was a failure with love and friendship at the same time.
But you know, I was too young then. It was easy to move on. It was just a puppy love but my young heart did love him! Charotz. And I loved her and valued our friendship.
So going back…
College years came and people were telling me that my bestfriend and my ex-boyfriend were already an item. I just shrugged it off. I totally forgot how I felt back then. Sometimes I bumped into them and yes, it felt awkward. So we stopped being bestfriends and I guess it was for the better.
Now, they’re happily married and blessed with one child. I am sincerely happy for them. Perhaps, I was just an instrument for them to be together, noh? I am just glad that I was part of their lives once upon a time. I believe they’re really meant for each other as I meant for JLC. Kacharingan!!
I think it’s not wrong to fall in love with your friend’s ex. Yes, it is awkward but you’re not cheating, right? One thing for sure though when you decide to date your friend’s ex is that you’re ready to forget your friend and that you value your heart’s desire than him/her. You can’t stay friend with your friend because admit or not, it feels really awkward.
Now, I will throw the question to you, given that you’re really attracted to him/ her… would you date your friend’s ex?
kung naka move on na, ok na yun.
tama din pero the friendship would not be the same anymore. parang may gap na siguro.
tama wala namang masama. wala namang nangyaring lokohan db? hehe. lahat ng ngyayari sa mundo talgang may purpose yan .
truelala. hindi naman dinikwat ng friend mo ang gf/bf mo habang kayo pa, di vah. oks lang yun. sports ba.
Life is indeed unpredictable.
Oh ayun sila pala talaga para sa isa’t isa. hehe
oo nga. you really don’t know what’s gonna happen.
guilty ako dito..though ‘di ko naman talaga plano ang lahat ng pangyayari..ayun, i lost my bestfriend..and after almost 1 year, i lost the girl…kaya now i know better..
ganon talaga ang buhay, hindi mo hawak ang mga pangyayari.
yeah..and double-crossing your bestfriend can never be a good idea..girls, boys..marami diyan, tumingin ka lang..but real friends are rarer..
If it was my BESTfriend’s ex. no.
If its an ex of a friend – pero friend lang, di naman ka-close – yes, why not. Ayaw niya dun, edi sakin na lang. Parang ganun. lol.
Hahaha. Totoo. Why not,choknot?!
ipagpalit na ko ng gf/asawa ko sa kapwa babae, wag lang sa bestfriend ko. mas masakit yun.
ang hirap non noh! parang nakaduda kung may something something na sila nong kayo pa. lol.
ako okay lang kung ang ipapalit sa akin ay ala angelina jolie at di ko kilala. hehe
right!
and besides, anong klaseng ‘bestfriend’ ka naman kung pati ex ng bestfriend mo tinalo mo.
eh kung ang ex ng bestfriend mo eh si Marian Rivera naman. d mo masisisi sarili mo di vah? wahaha.
yun lang!
pero di pa rin. bestfriend yan eh. lam mo yun. marami pa namang isda sa laot ika nga nila. hehe..
kulit ko ba? lol.
haha. sanay na ako sa makulit at (maldito). Lol.
hmmm murag nkaila ko mam? hehe
haha! sure ka? murag kaila gyd diay ka! haha. yaw saba. ato-ato lang ni. toinks
i don’t think so… kasi mahirap yon… di maiiwasang di makasakit sa ganyan though kung talagang fate(ano yon? hehe) it will happen diva? depende siguro sa situation, but for me? hahaha fwends lang pag ex ng fwends.
para sa akin okay lang pag after siguro mga 4 years or more na hiwalay sa friend mo. pero kung kababago lang tapos sunggab ka agad, parang hindi maganda.
Hi Reesie, padaan po at makiki-comment narin. hehe.
For me, I wouldn’t want any of my friends dating my ex. Awkward talaga yung ganun, pero kung di talaga papigil yung friend ko kung sakali eh di go nalang sya. hehehe.
Salamat sa pagbisita. Oo nga di mo mapipigilan sila kasi wala ka ng karapatan. Pero out of delikadesa di ba, mag antay ka naman ng medyo matagal hindi yung sunggaban mo kaagad. LOL
ok lang yun. kung ayaw na sau, eh wag na suyuin. quits, quits na yun. kung saluhin man ng kaibigan mo or ng kung sino man, oks lang. second hand na yun. ahehehe. kidding aside, mahirap talaga yan kapag bata pa kasi iba talaga kapag high school eh. pero sa pagtanda natin, madali na lang magparaya.
kung ako yung friend mo, susunggaban ko rin kaagad. lalo na at may communication na sila(at dahil sau pa!), eh talagang grab na yan! kung baga, bago pa lang kau maghiwalay, dapat maipahiwatig na na meron siya pagnanasa.
eto naman kwento ko…
nung naghiwalay kami nung gf ko dati, nagpaalam yung isa ko barkada na ligawan daw niya. payag naman ako. hindi naging sila kaya naging kami ulit. tas later on, naghiwalay din at meron na siya ngayon asawa at anak…. tas naalala pa rin daw ako. ahehehe.
gusto ko yung nagpapaalam para walang sisihan sa bandang huli.. para klaro ang lahat…para everybody happy!!
mahirap makipag date kung may feelings ka pa sa taong un..
baka kasi umasa ka pa na may feelings pa ang bawat isa senyo hehe..
heneways kung wala na at kaibigan na lang talaga..
why not,..walang masama..its a friendly date hehe.wala ng malisya hehe..
kamusta ate reesie hamisu much…
friendly date? there’s no such thing! lol.
miss you too lovely dear!
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tHiS iS oNe oF mY peTpEEves aNG mGa TaOnG GaNiTo mAgSulAt. haha.
at may mga POWz at Kow! at kung ano ano pang anik-anik. Nakaka-annoy!
Di kita ma getz. Ho U?
Ah eh….i am too innocent sa mga ganyang bagay. CHARS! hahahhaha…
I would rather date my computer than my friend’s ex. CHARING!
bakit parang alam ko na yan ang magiging sagot mo? hmmmmm.